Monday, 23 June 2014

Guest Contribution #6: 2014 Pacific Northwest Supra Nationals

Guest Contribution #6 comes from my pal Daryl, a car guy. If you're a gearhead like he is, he's definitely worth a follow or a network. Check it!


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Some people would look at us and dismiss us as nothing but no good trouble makers, street racers, no good hooligans.  Well in some cases that might not be far off, but as always there are two sides to each story.  I’m going to back up to last week and tell you all a little about my weekend before I get to my point.
Friday morning at 9:30 I am waiting at the trailer rental company’s parking lot for them to open so I can get my rented flat deck home to load my car up and hit the road.  I am heading south of my home country and province to spend the weekend in Portland Oregon for the 2014 Pacific Northwest Supra Nationals.  A yearly event that brings people from all walks of life together because of our love for old Toyotas.  Just a quick history lesson, Toyota made the Celica Supra from 1978-1986 when they split the Celica and the Supra into separate cars and the Supra was continued for sale in North America until 1998.  Points being that these are not a car that is still in production.  So I get my car loaded up and I hit the border, wave my nexus pass, talk to the officer for a minute then I am off to meet my friend Cory who lives in the town directly across the 49th parallel.  I told him the shell station on the wrong street  but after about 5 minutes I went to the right station, met up with him, and  we were headed south on the I-5 trying to catch up with the rest of the Canadian caravan.  We ended up meeting them at a fuel stop and it was time for a quick lunch so we found a pizza place with a buffet. Perfect. 

We stuff ourselves full of pizza and as we get back to the parking lot we find that someone had hit Mihir's car and literally tore half the bumper off the ground and left it lying on the ground.  To our surprise there was a note with an apology and a phone number on it.  Mihir was rightfully heated and wanted to tell this guy what he thought of his apology, keep in mind these cars are our pride and joy with countless hours of work and thought put into them.  I knew that wasn't the way to go so I borrowed Cory's phone and gave this guy a call.  He couldn't have been a better guy, had all his insurance information for us and he even offered to come back and help us get the car roadworthy, as he saw that we were from out of state and didn't want to leave us high and dry.  His simple gesture was so much more than just a note; he also left an impression on our hearts.  Seriously he fucked up, then stepped up to the plate and took responsibility for his mistake, a real man.  Luckily in my truck I had every tool I owned including drills and an assortment of different bits and we were able to jerry rig the bumper up where it belonged and carry on our way.  Mind you we had to wait for the sheriff to show up, document that it happened and gave us an incident report for our insurance purposes.  By the way, the sheriff was cool as fuck.  Once we finished up with the business end of our encounter he returned from his cruiser with his Iphone and showed us his Audi.  So naturally him being a car guy we stood around and talked cars for a bit (while listening very closely to his dispatcher on his radio of course)
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So we hit the road and got stuck in some really bad gridlock, which was not good because now Cory's electric cooling fans have decided to stop working.  So we pull over, and luckily I had all my tools and hardware to re wire his electric fans on the side of the 405 in Everett.  Let me tell you everything under that hood was incredibly hot and we somehow managed to not get burnt. Bonus. So we got those working and 40 minutes later we were on the road, in gridlock for 2.5 more hours but hey, such is life.

Let's fast forward to Friday night.  We check into the hotel at about 9, get my car off the trailer and we head out to meet up with the locals who are going to a go-kart track for some laps.  We end up meeting up with the rest of the Canadian crew there as well.  After the go-kart we all head back to the hotel and then once everyone is checked in we discuss what is on our minds.  Obviously it’s food.  So we are looking for something in walking distance as we are all tired of driving.  You might not believe this but around 11 pm on a Friday night in Portland it is very hard to find a sit down restaurant that is still serving food.  As we are wandering around the streets contemplating just getting snacks and beer at the gas station down the street we see our friends Duane and Don (not to be forgotten is Duane's wife Marylyn).  This was unexpected to see them so we go running over and everyone says our hellos as some of us haven’t seen each other in a while and it was a very joyous occasion.  Either way they were looking for food too and together we figured out that the gas station snacks and beer was really our only immediate option.  So over we go, like a bunch of insane people we choose our snacks and select our beers so that we can head back to the hotel.  10 or so of us was too much for one hotel room and some of us were at different hotels that were actually next door to each other.  So clearly we have a parking lot party, hanging out on my rented flat deck car hauler, telling jokes, poking fun at each other and laughing the night way.
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Now comes Saturday, and let me tell you it was far less eventful than Friday but still special nonetheless.  Saturday we all went to a high performance shop with a dyno so that everyone can talk about how much power their cars make and then prove it.  Which is great fun, everyone gets to talk about what they've done with their cars and what they'd like to do to make more power, hang out in the sun and just have a really fun day in general.  One thing that is notable is that Duane set a personal best of 1035.92 horsepower.  You read that right, and yes that’s a huge accomplishment.  SO after the day at the shop everyone takes off for a scenic drive through the beautiful state of Oregon - drive was amazing, and there is something really special about driving down I-84 with 30 other Supras at the same time.  For a guy who's into those cars, it’s really tough to top that.
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Sunday was the day of the car show at a beautifully renovated Toyota dealership in Beaverton.  This was a pretty basic car show and other than being in good company all day went off without a hitch and was uneventful in the sense that nothing crazy or out of hand happened.  This whole event was very well organized by a local supra owner named Shay.  I don’t know how she managed to do it but everything was perfect.  There were awards for all the various generations of Supras, fastest and highest horsepower cars.  After those were handed out and the door prizes were claimed that was it, the meet was over.
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Now the thing about the meet being over is that it felt like it only just began - the point of all this is that the people made this event so amazing. Magic is really the only way to describe it.  As I said a lot of these people come from different walks of life, but we were all brought together by the love of Toyota Supras.  A bumper gets pulled off in a parking lot, we rally together and fix it, get it back together and get the info we needed.  Electric cooling fans stop working in grid lock and we get them re-wired and fixed so that we can get to Portland come hell or high water.  We see our friends in the parking lot and immediately set up something so that we can all socialize and enjoy each other’s company.  Duane breaks his own personal record on the dyno and the entire crowd cheers.  We drive together and then meet up together to all shine our cars up and show them so that everyone can see what you've done, maybe inspire someone else who has just got into the Supra game to further their mechanical knowledge and desire to work on their car.  This is what I took from this whole weekend is that it is very important to get together with people who share the same interests and passions as you.  It’s refreshing, it’s always the best weekend of my summer when this annual event comes around.  Whether your passion is knitting quilts, drinking craft beer or even my little pony I suggest that you go to one of these meets, conventions or quilt sales.  Whatever it may be, no matter what it is just do it, get yourself out there and get inspired, or inspire someone else.  You won’t regret it I promise you that

Wednesday, 11 June 2014

Friends With Benefits: Guest Contribution #5



Guest contribution #5 comes from a girl I know who chose to remain anonymous. I'll tell you she's 21 years old, and a rad chick. 
Here's her take on the Friends with Benefits taboo, and why its working for her. 

Check it out. 

Friends with Benefits


Have you ever had a serious boyfriend or girlfriend? Have you ever had a one night stand? Maybe an acquaintance or friend there was sexual tension with that you slept with a few times but unfortunately lead to a misunderstanding because you were just horny when you were drunk and they totally had feelings for you - now leaving it awkward and uncomfortable when you see them at the grocery store, gas station or at the local bar? Have you ever felt like stabbing your eyes out with a pointy pencil because it has been (insert longest time spent not having sex) since you got lucky? If you are a human that went to high school, definitely if you went to college, then I am almost positive everyone has dipped in at least one of the scenarios I painted. Even being in my very early 20s, I have experienced all of them. From my past romantic and sexual experiences I took what I learned, the good and the bad, and what I still wanted to explore and made a deal with the devil.  If you like sex, keep reading.


My friends ask me how I can seem so genuinely happy and upbeat every day, no matter the weather outside. Where does that spring in my step come from? Why am I the girl sitting on the bus gazing out the window simply smiling at the trees, buildings and cars zooming by on my daily commute to work? Aside from the choice I make every day to BE HAPPY and to THINK POSITIVE, there is something else. Sometimes I recall a funny joke a pal told me, but most of the time it is casual sex and a good cup of coffee that gets me smiling in the morning. Although I have chosen to remain anonymous, I will tell you that I am not a slut, I am not easy, and I treat everyone I encounter with respect. 

I felt very bitter towards men after my last romance. Time was slowly passing and it had been a dry and agonizing four months since I had been laid. That was a record for me, and I realized it was time to play the field again. I was all messed up because I thought I hated all men, love was for suckers and one night stands were too trashy. If I felt differently about sleeping with strangers, then I could have had lots of sex over my dry period, but they freak me out and are just not for me. If you full-fill your sexual void with one night stands, congratulations! If you feel a little bit icky towards them or loosely agree with any of my content to this point, keep reading.



This post is named “Friends with Benefits” because I have one. There, I said it, and I am still smiling. No icky feeling, no desire to check my phone every 47 seconds to see if I have a text from him, and no need to spy on him out of my car with binoculars to find out if him and his hot neighbor really are just friends. One day I met a good looking, funny guy. I didn’t think much of him beyond that. Over perhaps a dozen encounters, some brief and some long, the sexual tension was there. We finally made plans to hang out one on one and we had a ball. After many drinks in the sunshine on a beautiful day, we were both naked in his bed. It happened six or seven times, too drunk to remember the total count. However, we were able to remember how much fun we had and how amazing the sex was. We might have been the horniest people in the world that night, but hey, at least we found each other, and we told each other there was no judgement about anything.


A couple days later when we were 100% sober we had a real talk. He called me out on my candy eyes for him and we acknowledged that we both liked each other; both enjoyed the other’s company and definitely would like to have sex again. We entertained the thought about dating for a few minutes, which could be nice, but we decided against it due to our own personal life reasons. As of now, my work schedule is so crazy and demanding, I barely have time to see my best friends and own family. Of course finding a date or a boyfriend is on my mind, but I don’t really want or need that right now. I just want to make some money, get my career wing flapping, get a tan, party with my chums and have lots of sex. Basically, at the end of the day I would like to drink beer and watch Netflix on the couch with my buddy followed by sex and repeat it several times (or as many times as we would like) per week and he absolutely feels the same.



So, we laid out a few ground rules, fair play, and cleared up some things from the get-go. Clearing up any questions or concerns in the beginning was KEY. Ultimately, we decided that we were both equally using each other (in a nice way) and would never be able to use the old “what are we?” that makes men run for the hills.  If one night both of us or one of us are out drinking with friends and we get a little horny, the bed is open. If we are too drunk to drive and it is too late to get the bus, a rendezvous ending with a spooning session is fine! Sleepovers are okay time to time. The beauty is that we are FRIENDS.  We care for each other in the sense that we respect and are nice to each other. No one is going to be mean, and no one is going to feel bad or guilty on the inside after calling the other up at 1am. If we want to sleep separately in our own beds and are able to get home safely, that is cool! If going home is not an easy option, we are not going to kick the other out of our bed once we are finished because friends don’t do that. Also, we don’t have to be drunk. Sober sex is good sex, too, and it can be at any time of day as long as we are both game.


WHAT WE SHOOK HANDS ON:
·         If we send a text wanting to hook up, there is three hours to reply. If there is no reply, we are not meeting up that day.
·         We do not tell anyone that we are friends with benefits. (our day to day lives overlap so it could cause problems if people found out we were sleeping together)
·         We only sleep with each other. (No STDs!!!)
·         Be honest with everything.
·         No judgement.
·         If we start seeing other people seriously, the sex ends but we are still friends.


Pros:
·         All the sex when and where we want it.
·         We know how we look naked and we know what we like! Body insecurities never come into play because we already announced that we like each other’s body. Duh, our friendship is based on physical attraction!
·         Never having to impress and convince strangers we are smart / cool / sexy enough to sleep with / date because we are already getting some.
·         No need to creep his Facebook and strike up a sudden interest in his favourite sports team – we are already on common ground, no need to fake a mutual interest, just honesty.
·         A unique friendship.
·         He literally picks me up from work, takes me to his bed, then drives me home and tunes into my favourite radio station.
·         The honesty – he tells me which pants make my ass look great and which pants that don’t… just like a friend would!
·         My dad doesn’t have to kill him because he doesn’t know he exists!
·         I can still meet, talk, flirt, text and date other men knowing if I find someone or something better, I can end sex with my friend in an instant because I am not tied down and there are no hard feelings – this was our agreement!
·         A confidence boost
Cons:
·         No one to bring home to Thanksgiving Dinner - my mom still asks me every week if I have met anyone special.
·         Some friends just can’t accept a situation like this and will look at you differently ***this applies to girls only*** *** GUYS: your friends will think you are a champ!!!***
·         May potentially interfere with the chances of finding my prince charming (if you are not looking at anyone else at all, you might miss the chance at meeting a long term mate)
·         Over time feelings may arise

How my life has improved:
·         No urge to stab my eyes out
·         Always something / someone to do

This is just my outlook on recent friends with benefits relationship of mine. All in all I am in my happy place. I know it won’t last forever, but right now it is just right. He isn’t the guy I want to introduce to my family and friends, but we still have fun together behind closed doors. I still want to meet my Prince Charming and when the time is right for me, settle down and have a family. I know that my buddy here is not the one, but he is a friend, and hats off to him!
If you think a friend with benefits might be right for you, go for it! I highly recommend it. Please consider my pros and cons before you make any decisions. I don’t want anyone getting hurt. Just be honest with yourself and your friend. This situation is meant to benefit both of you, so lay your cards on the table, push the envelope, and go after what you need. A glorious relationship like this doesn’t come along often, so if you decide to go down a path like this, take full advantage of it. I don’t want anyone to get hurt, so be honest, think positive and have an open mind!
Thank-you for reading J