Second guest contribution post comes from Alicia O'Connell writing about a woman's take on what a Tinder experience is like. Great read, good points - check it out! Like, Share, Stumble, Tweet, Reddit, or snail mail as you see fit!
Check her out:
Twitter:
@ayo7788
Instagram:
@ayo778
A 26 Year Old Woman's Commentary on the World of Dating Apps
As a recently single lady I have
discovered that the world of dating has changed drastically in the four years I
was in a relationship. I am only 26 years old but having recently downloaded a
dating application onto my Iphone I’ve discovered that today’s version of
courting is seriously lacking in most aspects. During the present time one does
not even have to leave their house in order to score a date. I simply just put
pretty pictures of myself onto Tinder and voila, I have prospects. While they
look at my pictures and chat to me through the application I am most likely in
sweat pants, with wet hair, eating wings I ordered from Pizza Hut, but they’ll
never know. Through many of the matches I gained on Tinder I made a
realization: dating applications make dating a creepy experience. These guys
have nothing to lose. They simply propose something vulgar and if you say no
and block them then it’s no skin off their back and if you say yes, then they
score. All the romance has been taken from dating with the use of online
websites and applications. There’s not stopping it however, this is the
technology age. All I have to do is swipe right on the picture of a
good-looking guy and I’m set. Only I’m not. The world of dating has turned into
quite the experience now and that in itself is not necessarily a good thing.
This is a screen shot from a guy I matched who will remain
nameless so as not to sully his chances with any other females on tinder who
like the first words out of a guy’s mouth to be “I want to do dirty things to
you”. I believe my response was appropriate considering. I mean you can’t blame
the guy for trying but seriously, not even a “hello”? Not even a “how are you”?
I don’t imagine myself to be above anyone else, and obviously I found this guy
attractive considering we matched but it is times like these where I find
myself wondering what I am doing on Tinder in the first place. This is a good
question though. What am I doing on Tinder you ask? Well. I’ll tell you. It’s
simple enough: I joined for fun. I don’t expect any sort of long term
relationship to come out of it nor have I even decided to meet anyone in person
at this point. Post-breakup I’ve been sad and Tinder seemed like a fun and
innocent way to alleviate that sadness. It’s a bit of a confidence booster.
Since matches are based on pretty much pictures alone I’ve been feeling pretty
good about myself. Regardless though, this guy got blocked immediately. The
funny thing is I think he may have blocked me back after my response. I guess I
just wasn’t what he was looking for. He probably wanted me to ask, “What kind
of dirty things?” The sad thing is that I’m sure there are girls who do on
occasion respond that way. Why else would he even try it? Because obviously his
success rate isn’t bad. Which makes me scared for the human race. One day
someone at their wedding will ask, “So how did you two crazy kids meet?” and
his response will be “I told her through a dating app that I wanted to do dirty
things to her, and you would not believe the response I got”. That’ll be one to
tell the grandchildren.
-Alicia O' Connell
No comments:
Post a Comment