The unfortunate case of terrible aesthetics
Just a short post about ugly people. Im not a psychologist, but I got to thinking the other day when I was leaving a gas station and neglected to hold the door for a tremendously ugly woman, if she was close I would have regardless because im a classy gentleman and my momma raised me right. But it was one of those situations where she was far enough away that the choice was mine on whether to hold the door for her or not. I chose the latter.
The rest of my commute I thought about that and started to feel like kind of a prick. Usually I like to hold the door for anyone if there is an opportunity coming up because I like to see that awkward little run people do when they realize that I am holding the door for them. I came to the conclusion that the only reason I didn’t hold the door for her was because her face looked like a clubfoot that was left in the sun.
If someone is gross to look at, I automatically presume that they stink, that they are annoying, that I can’t trust them, and generally associate all negative qualities that coincide with how they make my eyes feel when I look at them.
THAT IS TERRIBLE! I don’t think it is a good thing to do by any means, but I think people do it nonetheless. It must be something subconscious or something that makes people cringe at uglies. Fight or flight!
If you find somebody visually putrid it’s extremely hard to do any of the following
- Initiate conversation
- Do business
- Flirt
- Smile
- Be friends with (be seen in public with)
- Drive in cars
- Eat with
- Take serious
- Take directions from
It’s sad. It’s wrong. It’s shameful. But it’s just how things are. You actually need to make a conscious effort to avoid this kind of thing. Don’t be gas station me, Hold the door for everyone, regardless of if they are sinfully ugly, they need their day brightened more than the beautiful people.
